What is Couple Power?
Couple Power, a division of Relationship Possibilities, Inc., is an approach developed by clinical psychologists Phyllis Koch-Sheras and Peter Sheras for creating and maintaining profoundly fulfilling relationships. The cornerstone of the approach is the power of the words we use to create a foundation that sustains lifelong love. We don’t have to be controlled by our feelings or needs. Rather, we have the power to choose what we do and how we act in relationships. Couple Power teaches couples how to get beyond their own individual concerns and create a vision that empowers the couple to work and play together as a team.
Through workshops and consultations, the Couple Power approach is taught to individuals, couples, professionals and organizations. For more information, contact: sherfam@aol.com or call 434-971-4701.
The Couple Power approach addresses the paradox at the root of our individualistic culture: Couples are expected to commit to a long-term relationship, but they are also led to believe that happiness can only be found through self-gratification and individual achievement. By applying the Couple Power approach, people don’t have to give up their own desires and sense of identity. On the contrary, a couple becomes an avenue for enhancing both individual and couple goals. Falling in love becomes an opportunity for each person to see and reinforce the best in each other, supporting a stronger sense of the self.
This approach is based on principles of positive psychology which focus on reinforcing not what’s wrong but what’s possible in a relationship. Rather than dwelling on dissatisfactions or dysfunctions from the past, couples are taught to focus on creating a joint vision of what they want for their relationship in the present. Using the simple principles of the Four C’s, Couple Power enables people to work together to “co-create” new possibilities for their future together. The manifestation of this new possibility is what we call Couple Power, a state of being related where lifelong love and more joy is possible for couples than they could ever have imagined.